Friday, March 18, 2016

The Friday Fishwrap

All the news that's fit to wrap around a dead fish

The week in review


Monday - "My new place" About my apartment

Tuesday - "How to Get Your House Ready to Sell" Some tips from The Art of Manliness

Wednesday - "10 Places to Meet Women Other Than a Bar or Nightclub" More helpful tips from The Art of Manliness

Thursday - "Would you like to increase your sales?" About an upcoming event that will help do just that

Here's today's video:


Interesting days


This week


Saturday - Plant a Flower DayGenealogy Day and Girl Scout Day




Wednesday - Freedom Of Information Day and Lips Appreciation Day

Thursday - Submarine Day and Saint Patrick's Day

Today - Forgive Mom & Dad DayBiodiesel Day and Awkward Moments Day

Next week






Wednesday - Near Miss DayPuppy DayMelba Toast Day and Chip and Dip Day

Thursday -  Tuberculosis Day and Chocolate Covered Raisins Day

Friday - Tolkien Reading DayPecan Day and Waffle Day


Next month








Thursday, March 17, 2016

Would you like to increase your sales?

Are you a business owner or sales professional looking for a simple and effective way to increase your sales without having to spend a lot of time or money implementing it? Then this event is just what you're looking for.

How many of you have all the referrals you can handle?
What are you doing to generate referrals?
What are you doing to create raving fans?

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Join us & learn from Jay McHugh Realtor, ABR, CRS, CyberStar, Top Realtor for 24 years Greater Boston area. Jay is Broker Partner of LAER Realtors with 22 offices - 402 agents and over 1 Billion in sales in 2015.
Jay has studied under many if not all of the Top Real Estate coaches in the market and his most successful tool/system bar none is his use of SendOutCards. Come listen and learn how Jay successful uses SOC in his business and how he teaches his agents to do the same, as well as his network of loan and mortgage officers. You will leave with profitable ideas and strategies that can be used immediately and cement a solid referral business like no other.
YOU will not want to miss this Lunch and Learn!

Who Uses SendOutCards?

Join Us to Learn Why Relationship Marketing
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Here is the link to the event: Appreciation Marketing Lunch & Learn Workshop. The event is on Thursday, May 5th from 11:30 AM to 1:30 PM in Fresno, CA.

I'm making a special offer to anyone who reads this...bring 3 people with you to the event, with or without lunch, and I'll buy your lunch! Just contact me for details at rick.tompkins@att.net

But wait, there's more! There is a follow up event from 6 to 9 PM on the same night that gets into more details on how to choose the right SendOutCatds bundle for your needs and how to use use the SendOutCards system to accomplish your sales goals. Plus learn about an additional income stream. I have 10 guest tickets to this 2nd event. Check it out SIMPLE SUCCESS EVENT

You're welcome to attend either or both events, just let me know.

Interesting days


Today -  Submarine Day and Saint Patrick's Day

Tomorrow- Forgive Mom & Dad DayBiodiesel Day and Awkward Moments Day

Next Thursday -  Tuberculosis Day and Chocolate Covered Raisins Day I ate the Raisinets that I bought for the occasion...guess I'll have to buy some more

April 17 - Blah Blah Blah Day, Bat Appreciation Day, Ford Mustang Day, Nothing Like A Dame Day and Haiku Poetry Day


Wednesday, March 16, 2016

10 Places to Meet Women Other Than a Bar or Nightclub

This isn't even close to what I was planning to write about today, but it seems appropriate since I just moved.

Where did you meet your current spouse/significant other? I met my soon to be ex-wife in a sleazy bar in Manville, NJ. She always hated when I described our meeting that way...but who cares? Actually, it was a very nice bar in Manville, NJ.

Here's another post courtesy of The Art of Manliness:



Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Joe Weber.
Who: Her.
What: Potentially a relationship.
Where: …um…
It’s that last question where most guys get stuck and end up with the cliche answer of “the bar.” The reality is very few relationships begin in bars and pubs. According to a survey by sociologist David Grazian, only 20% of adults met their most recent partner at a bar.  So there has to be other places to meet a woman, right?
Sure there are. But first, do yourself a favor. Forget the where for a second and instead focus on the why. Why are you looking? Be honest. If your answer is: “because I’m unhappy/bored with being alone, and I’d just really like to be in a relationship…” then you might as well be looking for a date on Jupiter. Get more than okay with yourself and be fine with being alone, and then it’ll happen. As to where? Could be anywhere. Amazing, single women are certainly out there. But they tend to only reveal themselves as such to confident men who are open to a relationship, yet at the same time aren’t exhibiting the slightest hint of desperation. Now with all that said, here’s a few non-bar places to keep your ears up…

Your Friend’s House

vintage 1960s house party serving drinks talking
You got friends right? Friends that might even be married or have significant others? These friends probably throw parties/get-togethers/poker tournaments/Kentucky Derby shindigs (whatever, you get the point) from time to time. Show up, look good, have fun. One of those times your pal’s wife is going to invite her new co-worker friend to that same party. Maybe you two will hit it off. Just don’t egg your friends on to set you up.

Charity Galas / Non Profit Functions

Nice guys don’t always finish last. And nice guys show up to charity events to support great causes. Every non profit from food banks to humane societies have started throwing swanky evening affairs. Silent auctions, live auctions, dinner, dancing, etc…not a bad way to spend some cash for a good cause and maybe meet a few people along the way.

The Gym

It’s a pretty difficult place to launch a relationship, but if you’re a gym rat that gets to your health club of choice at the same set time, more than a few days a week, then you’re going to see some familiar faces. You get used to seeing the regulars. And if there’s a particular regular that you find yourself working out around that’s of some interest to you? An opportunity might present itself. Plus, if you care about your health, and she cares about hers, well there’s something in common already. But this is seriously dangerous. High adrenaline + lack of clothing almost always makes you the creep. She’s there to workout. Just like you. Respect that. But don’t shy away from it if there’s maybe something there.

Coffee Shops

They’re just like bars. Only instead of alcohol, the drug is caffeine. And the women who frequent coffee shops tend to be more laid-back and grounded.

Work

vintage man woman in office looking at blueprints illustration
Take a look at these awesome plans I’ve drawn up here…to take you out on a date.
It’s where I met my wife. Actually, we met before I had the job there. I went in for the interview, saw her walk by, and felt extra motivated to land the gig. It can get pretty dicey if you’re dating someone in your workplace, but if it’s someone you really connect with? It’s worth the land mines. Just know your company’s procedure and shoot a quick email to HR. Best case scenario is that the two of you become great friends, develop a mutual attraction, and then she leaves to take a better job at an ad agency across town. Worked out perfect for me.

The Bank

The tellers. Goodness. You’re given just the right amount of time to make small talk and perhaps even make her laugh. Plus you have a natural exit each time. Let that develop. And if it doesn’t work out? There’s always the ATM.

The Dog Park

Pet owners get each other. Especially those that love their dogs. If your dog and her dog get along and like to play? Bonus. But don’t go out looking to adopt a dog just to use as date bait.

Online

Don’t laugh. You’re online right now. And as great of an idea as an Art of Manliness dating site spin-off may be, Brett hasn’t gotten to that one yet. Yes there are plenty of odd ones (both male and female) lurking on dating websites. But if you live in a city where people get married young? And those that aren’t married have a hard time connecting? It’s not a total waste of time. Two of my most favorite people on the planet met online. She’s a whip smart, big city gal with a job that takes her around the world…and he’s a works with his hands, born and raised in North Dakota, ready to match wits, hunter-type who loves his yellow lab and 57 Chevy. They ended up together because they’re perfect for each other and neither was desperate to be in a relationship. That and he resisted making his dating site profile pic one of him holding up his latest kill from a hunt. Don’t do that. Women don’t tend to like that.

An Airplane/Airport

vintage man woman sitting next to each other on plane
Step 1: Leave your crocs and torn jeans at home. Attractive women seem to really be into guys who take the time to dress well when travelling. It’s probably because outside of Walmart, an airplane is where people tend to dress their absolute worst. Look down the rows of any major commercial jet and most people look like they’re dressed to clean out the garage. If you’re the guy in the suit, or even nice jeans, decent shoes, and a cotton blazer? Congrats. She’ll want to sit next to you or maybe even share a drink during a layover. The most obvious drawback is that she might not live where you live.

Church

Now don’t go showing up to some church just so you can pick up the ladies. Even if they don’t immediately sniff out your insincerity, success will mean snagging a devout woman who will eventually discover your true intentions and the fact that you’re not on the same page. But if you’re already the religious type, church is a great place to meet women. First, the odds are already in your favor with women outnumbering men at nearly every church. Second, many of these women are looking to meet Mr. Right, so they’re approachable. Third, you know right off the bat that all these women likely share your same religious beliefs and values, which is an important factor in the success of long term relationships.
Many churches have singles programs that you can join. Sign up for the activities and get involved.
Despite the benefits of meeting women at church, there are a few drawbacks. The dating pool is often small which can create a lot of drama. For example, you can date one woman one month and decide it won’t work, so you break it off. Problem is you’ll still have to see her Sunday, which can make things awkward. Things can get even more uncomfortable if you decide to date another woman in your congregation. Tread carefully.

The Rest – Where Women Tend to Be

Rec sports leagues, volunteer organization events, bookstores, affordable furniture and decor stores like Cost Plus World Market, even Bed Bath & Beyond. These are all places where you can, if you so choose, engage a great looking woman in conversation without coming off as creepy. How do I know? I asked a panel of six female friends, and they all agreed that these extra locations should give a guy ample opportunities to strike up a conversation with someone whom he probably has something in common with. For the shopping locations, they’re relatively gender neutral but are also places where most women will gladly give you her opinion on an item (a new book, a bottle of wine, something that hangs on a wall). Activities like sports leagues or volunteer organizations guarantee you’ll have something to talk about. Whether it’s the cause you’re supporting, or the softball game that was just played. Just be your normal charming self, dress like you care about your appearance (because you do right?), and let it happen.
As a final note, keep in mind that women aren’t specifically in these places to be picked up by a dude. They’re working, exercising, and relaxing. So be wary of becoming an annoyance, where she has to dread seeing you walk in the door at her place of work or has to switch her workout time to avoid seeing you at the gym. Start with really short, passing chit chat, and slowly work towards having a little longer conversation. If she’s giving off signs that she’s into you, then continue. If not, then back off. And if you can’t read those kinds of social cues? Well you should probably work on that before you start dating.
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Joe Weber is the Director and Editor of www.Dappered.com where affordable style is the one and only focus. He believes that living right, living well, and looking good doesn’t mean you should go broke in the process.

Interesting days


Today - Freedom Of Information Day and Lips Appreciation Day I guess I better go meet some women so I can celebrate this!

Tomorrow - Submarine Day

Next Wednesday - Near Miss DayPuppy DayMelba Toast Day and Chip and Dip Day I'm celebrating this a week early! I guess I'll have to get some more

April 16 - Wear Your Pajamas To Work DaySave The Elephant DayEggs Benedict Day (I had some last year and discovered that I'm not a fan), Record Store Day (fortunately, vinyl is making a comeback), Dolphin Day and Auctioneers Day


Which reminds me of this scene from one of my favorite movies, The Music Man:




Tuesday, March 15, 2016

How to Get Your House Ready to Sell

It's getting to be peak selling time for homes and here's an article from The Art of Manliness with some tips on getting your house ready to sell. 


Looking for a new house can be a fun and exciting experience. Less fun and exciting is selling your existing home. It’s a series of show and tell, and while your realtor will take care of the telling part, it’s largely on you to make sure your home is going to show well to potential buyers. You want the people who come tromping through your open house to be duly impressed and enchanted, and for someone to make an offer as soon as possible.
For this reason, getting your house ready to sell is a lesson in perfectionism. Every detail needs to be just right. It’s going to be a lot of hard work, time, and possibly, money. But the effort and money you spend on getting your house ready for sale will come back to you. Even just overall cleanliness can be the difference between a quick sale at asking price or your home sitting on the market for weeks and weeks with no offers.
My wife and I recently sold our first home, and are moving to the ‘burbs in a couple weeks. Using the tips below, which I learned from our realtor and stager, helped our house sell during its first weekend on the market. Success! There were obviously other factors at play (location, decorating/paint colors, etc.), but there are some things that every homeowner can do to increase their odds of selling fast and for what you’re asking.

The Exterior

The exterior matters. A lot. The first impression makes a huge difference. You want your house to look great from the second a potential buyer pulls up to the curb.

Landscaping

How your landscaping looks goes a long way towards giving a good first impression. It’s going to be what people first see, after all. Keep the lawn mowed and manicured (and do your darndest to keep it green), remove all dead plants, get the trees trimmed if necessary, etc. If you have landscape lighting, be sure it all works and that bulbs are fresh.
In the winter, or early spring/late fall, this becomes easier because things are naturally dying. If everyone’s yard and landscaping looks brown, including yours, there’s just nothing you can do about it. Snow is even better because it covers everything up and makes it all look nice and purty.

Exterior Cleanliness

While the exterior of your home will obviously be a little dirty and grimey, do your best to clean it up. Get rid of bird’s nests, clean dirt clumps off the exterior, nail down any loose boards (if you have wood siding), ensure the gutters are free and clear of debris, and keep the walkways/patios freshly swept.
If it’s snowy season when your house is for sale, be sure that you shovel/snow blow any exterior concrete surface: driveway, patio, porch, sidewalk, etc. You don’t want a prospective buyer slipping and falling on the ice. That’ll seem like a bad omen.

The Entry   

Give your door a good scrub down, and possibly a fresh coat of paint. Replace the hardware if it’s beat up. Also get new mats for both outside and inside the door if yours are worn.

Windows 

Here’s a pro tip: take the screens off all your windows. It makes them appear much cleaner from both outside and inside the house.
After you’ve done that, give the windows a good scrubbing, both inside and out. Of course you can always hire this job out if you’d rather not do it yourself.
Also be sure to clean out window wells if you have a basement. They’re often home to excess leaves/weeds and cobwebs. Clean them out as best you can.

Garage

I’m including the garage in this exterior section because it functions basically as such. There’s no decorating or painting in the garage so you don’t have to worry about how it looks from a design standpoint. Just be sure your tools, Christmas boxes, and other garage knickknacks are organized. That could mean DIY shelving and pegboard, or simply ensuring your piles are nice and neat. Also keep the floor freshly swept.
If it’s a 2- or 3-car garage, but one stall is used as storage, get that stuff out of there and into a storage unit. Buyers need to see the full capability of your garage.

Inside the Home

De-clutter. Big time.

This is task numero uno for home sellers. When you live in a house, especially for many years, it accumulates a certain amount of clutter. You want your house to feel warm and inviting, but that doesn’t take nearly as much stuff as you might think.
The key to de-cluttering is by pre-packing, often with the help of a short-term storage rental. Below are the areas you should focus on:
Closets. Take at least half the stuff out of all your closets, and give everything in clothing closets unified hangers (white plastic or nice wooden ones are good options). You’ll be amazed at how much better it looks. Put anything on a closet shelf into a basket (more on that later). And don’t leave anything on closet floors; no matter how organized it is, it will seem cluttered.
Kitchen counters. Get almost everything off the kitchen counters. Except for nice appliances (espresso machine, KitchenAid Stand Mixer), pack it away. You obviously use some things every day, but find places in cupboards for them while your house is showing, or live without them. This includes paper towels, toasters, coffee makers, dish clothes, etc.
Cupboards. A similar principle applies to cupboards as it did to closets. Take out any dishes that make it seem cluttered. Give the cupboards some floor space; that is, if every square inch of shelving has stuff on it, something needs to go. Pack up a couple mugs, glasses, plates, etc. You want the cupboards to feel big enough to hold anything and everything a potential buyer might have, so they need to not be filled.
Shelving. Decorations and knickknacks and manly mementos need to be extensively pared down. Your mantle should have 1-3 objects on it, not 10. The buffet in the dining room shouldn’t have anything on it. Dresser tops should be bare essentials only. People want to walk into basically a model home, not something that’s been clearly lived in, even if it’s an illusion.

Decorating/Organizing

Hire a stager. Many realtors will pay for a stager to come into your home (after all, the higher the house goes for, the more they make!), but if yours doesn’t, hire one out of your own pocket. They’re professional designers, and they can look at your home with objective eyes. They’ll walk in and see what potential buyers see, and figure out how to arrange furniture and spaces in ways that maximize what your home has to offer.
It can be a little stressful, as you have someone coming in and judging your space. The first thing our stager said when she walked in was, “I’m going to make comments on your decorating and furniture, but it’s not personal.” You can take or leave what they suggest, of course, but it’s in your best interest to follow their lead as much as possible.
Get rid of all personal touches. When people walk into a home that’s for sale, they want to be able to picture themselves in it, not the previous owners. Store any family photos that are displayed, as well as anything religious in nature. It will feel stale to you, but will go towards the model home look that’s appealing to buyers.
Containerize. One of the biggest tips our stager gave was to containerize everything. She said, “People like to think they live in a really organized way. They never do, but they want to think they will if they move into this house. It’s a fantasy for them.” So if you containerize your space, people will be able to see themselves living that neatly in the home, even if they never will. Buy baskets, under-bed containers, shoe organizers, etc. Nothing in your house should be free-floating; it should all have a home in a container. Get one for your living room for remotes and phone/computer charges. Get one in the nursery for diaper changing supplies instead of just having them on the changing table. Rather than clothes on shelves in your closet, get baskets. You get the idea.
Prepare for snoopers. Potential buyers will peek in all the cabinets, refrigerator, etc. If they’re buying the place, those things will be theirs after all (and people are just curious about how others live!). So tidy up your cabinets, your junk drawers, your bathroom vanities, etc. The safe places — those which can house all the junk you want — are things that clearly aren’t staying with the house: desks, dressers, curio cabinets, etc.

Freshening Your Home

Part of what can set your home apart from other is how fresh it feels to potential buyers. Are there dust bunnies in the corner? Are there scuffs on walls? Are things worn or faded? The following tips will ensure your home feels as fresh as Martha Stewart’s.
Make small repairs that you’ve been putting off. That loose doorknob on the closet? Tighten it up and get some new screws if needed. Small hole in the wall? Plaster it and paint it. Cracks in caulking? Buy a tube and get to it. Light bulb that’s been burnt out for a year? Now’s the time for a fresh one. For bigger issues, call a handyman. This is certainly an instance where you’d rather have it done right and in a timely manner versus you tinkering and doing something out of your league.
Touch up the paint all around the house. There are sure to be spots on walls where furniture has rubbed against it, where kids have gotten rambunctious, or some other ding has chipped or scuffed the color. Get the paint out of your closet (you saved any leftover from when you painted, right?), and fix any small spots that don’t perfectly align with the rest of the wall(s). Here’s a tip: for smaller spots, you can use the sample cans you bought when you originally painted (if you saved them, of course).
If you don’t have the paint — you either used every last drop, or you haven’t painted and the previous owner didn’t leave leftovers — your choice is to either let it be and know your house won’t be perfect, or re-paint. If you have time, I’d recommend opting for the latter.
Also in the paint category, re-paint all your baseboards and doorways if needed. Cleaning will help, but a fresh coat of paint (if they’re painted rather than just stained), really makes the house feel clean and fresh.
Hire professional cleaners. While you certainly have the ability to deep clean your house, it takes a lot of time and elbow grease which might be better spent on other projects, especially if you’re on a deadline. Hire professional cleaners to do a one-time deep clean a few days before your house goes on the market. It will really make everything shine. In my experience, the folks who are paid to do it will make your house much cleaner than is even possible on your own. They have some sort of wizardry in those mops and vacuums. While you’re at it, get your carpets professionally cleaned as well. It makes a world of difference.
Install new outlet covers. This is another small thing that makes a big difference in freshness. If your covers are stainless, just give them a good wipe down. If they’re white, and have yellowed or stained over time, replace them. They’re cheap and easy to replace!

Get Ready for Showings

Once your house goes on the market, be prepared for showings right away. Have a plan for stashing your dirty clothes hamper (ours went in the back of the SUV), make sure all dishes are out of the sink and put away, keep all shoes put away in closets or baskets near the entry door. It has to be spotless when people see it. Right before you leave the house for a showing, walk through each room for a quick inspection, and leave all the lights on as you leave, even in the daytime.
With a lot of hard work, and a little bit of luck, your house will sell in just a few weeks or even days and you won’t have to deal with the annoyance of having your home on the real estate market!
Big thanks to realtor Matt Sadler and stager Macky Bennett for their help on this piece, and with our home!

Interesting days


Today - True Confessions DayBuzzards Day and Brutus Day

Tomorrow - Freedom Of Information Day and Lips Appreciation Day

Next Tuesday - World Water DayAs Young As You Feel Day and Goof Off Day

April 15 - DNA DayMicrovolunteering DayDay Of SilenceTake A Wild Guess Day and is it a coincidence that That Sucks Day falls on Tax Day?

 

 

Monday, March 14, 2016

My new place

As many of you know, I moved this past Friday. I've been renting rooms for the past year and a half but I've got my own place.

Until August of 2014 I had my own apartment in Pleasanton, CA but the rent was getting too expensive so I moved in with my sister. Big mistake! It wasn't because of her, or her place, but because AT&T insisted that I continued driving to the office in San Ramon...which was 135 miles away. The move to my sister's place was very spur of the moment, but I hoped the company could work with me for a few months. But no! So, I saved $1,000 a month by moving to Paradise (yes, that's the name of the town) but I ended up spending $1,200 a month in commuting costs. That move lasted about 2 1/2 months.

In November, 2014 I moved in with Tenley and Yangchen Nyima, friends of my SendOutCards sponsor, Gregory Festo. They moved their young son, TriRal, into their room with them and I rented the 2nd bedroom for 10 months. They moved to a bigger house and just recently had their 2nd child.

In September of last year, I moved in with an AT&T friend, John Ware. John lives in a 3 bedroom, 2 bath house by himself and he was only about 6 miles from the AT&T office!

But I was ready for my own place again, so here I am. It's a nice 2 bedroom, 1 bath place. It's about 65 miles from the office but I'm paying $200 a month less than I paid for my 1 bedroom apartment 4 years ago. And I've done that distance of commute for many years, so I'm happy.

I'd like to thank Linda (my sister), Tenley and Yangchen, and John for your help in getting me to where I am right now!

Interesting days




Next Monday - Common Courtesy DayWorld Down Syndrome DaySingle Parent's DayMemory Day and French Bread Day Yum! I'm ready for some French bread in my new apartment!

Sunday, March 13, 2016

The Funday Sunnies

Interesting days


Today - Coconut Torte Day, Check Your Batteries Day, Open An Umbrella Indoors Day, Earmuffs Day and Ken Day


Next Sunday - World Storytelling DaySnowman Burning DayQuilting DayInternational Day of HappinessWon't You Be My Neighbor Day and Ravioli Day. It's also Proposal Day and as soon as you celebrate that, you can then celebrate Kiss Your Fiance Day