Monday, October 21, 2019

Expect Great Things

Today's post is from The Art of Manliness:
On a fall day, Henry David Thoreau and his brother John wandered by a river looking for historical artifacts. His “head full of the past and its remains,” Thoreau surveyed the landscape and romantically imagined where the area’s Native Americans had once lived, hunted, and feasted. “Here,” he then exclaimed, “stood Tahatawan [a local chieftain]; and there is Tahatawan’s arrowhead.” As Thoreau playfully reached down to pick up what appeared to be an ordinary rock . . . he found that it was, in fact, a perfectly preserved arrowhead. 
These kinds of serendipitous occurrences were no rarity for Thoreau; he was known for having an uncanny knack for finding whatever it was he was thinking about and searching for. 
This ability wasn’t a matter of mere coincidence, but rather a manifestation of the magnetism of Thoreau’s intentions. “In the long run, we find what we expect,” he said. “We shall be fortunate then if we expect great things.”
This is an excellent example of the law of attention...you tend to see more of what you're paying attention to. I've written about the subject here.

More from AoM:
When I read a book with pen in hand, I discover (and subsequently underline) more insights within it. The presence of the pen doesn’t change the text, of course, but rather puts me in a more expectant frame of mind, prompting me to notice what might otherwise be passed over. 
When someone moves to a new city and expects to find the culture boring and the people rude, that’s exactly what they encounter. When another person moves to the very same place, expecting to find layers of interest and friendly folks, that’s exactly what they encounter, too. 
Some say it’s best to keep expectations low, dampening disappointment if they’re not met. But that assumes the outcome will be the same regardless of our anticipations. Instead, in ways both practical and metaphysical, heightened expectations create possibilities unavailable in their absence. 
As Thoreau observed, “We find only the world we look for.”
 So, what are you looking for?

Interesting days



Tomorrow - Caps Lock DaySmart is Cool DayNut Day and International Stuttering Awareness Day

Next Monday - Plush Animal Lover’s Day and Animation Day

November 21 - World Hello DayStuffing DayFalse Confession DayRed Mitten DayUse Less Stuff DayBeaujolais Nouveau DaySocial Enterprise Day and World Television Day

Week long celebrations:
November 18 - 24: Road Safety Week 

Sunday, October 20, 2019

Your weekend guide to interesting days - October 19, 2019

This week


Sunday - No Bra Day and Train Your Brain Day

Monday - Be Bald And Free DayWorld Standards DayInternational Top Spinning DayDessert DayNative American Day and Columbus Day

Tuesday - Global Handwashing DayWorld Students’ DayWhite Cane Safety Day and Chicken Cacciatore Day

Wednesday - World Food DayDictionary DayBoss’ DayHagfish DaySteve Jobs DayFeral Cat DayGlobal Dignity DayTake Your Parents To Lunch Day and Department Store Day

Thursday - Get Smart About Credit DaySpreadsheet DayInternational Day for the Eradication of PovertyWear Something Gaudy DayMulligan DayConflict Resolution DayPlaying Card Collection Day and Forgive an Ex Day

Yesterday - Chocolate Cupcake DayNo Beard Day and Developmental Language Disorder Awareness Day

Today - I Love Yarn DayBridge DaySweetest DayRepair Day and Evaluate Your Life Day

Week long celebrations:
October 13 - 19: Healthcare Foodservice Workers Week 
Month long celebrations:
September 15 - October 15: Hispanic Heritage Month 

Next week


Tomorrow - Community Media DayOffice Chocolate DayInternational Chef DayToy Camera DayBrandied Fruit DaySuspender’s DayInformation Overload Day and International Sloth Day

Monday - Apple DayReptile Awareness DayClean Your Virtual Desktop DayCount Your Buttons Day and International Gin and Tonic Day

Tuesday - Caps Lock DaySmart is Cool DayNut Day and International Stuttering Awareness Day

Wednesday - iPod DayEvent Organizers DayMole DayTV Talk Show Host DayBoston Cream Pie Day and SUDEP Action Day

Thursday - World Tripe DayBologna Day and United Nations Day

Friday - International Artists DaySourest DayWorld Pasta DayPunk for a Day DayBandana Day and Greasy Food Day

Saturday - Make A Difference DayHug A Sheep DayMule DayPumpkin DayHowl At The Moon Day and Mincemeat Day

Next month


November 13 - World Kindness DaySymphonic Metal DayEducation Support Professionals Day and Indian Pudding Day

November 14 - Loosen Up, Lighten Up DayWorld Diabetes DaySpicy Guacamole DayOperating Room Nurse Day and Pickle Day

November 15 - Clean Out Your Refrigerator DaySpicy Hermit Cookie DayAmerica Recycles DayPhilanthropy DayI Love to Write Day and Bundt Cake Day

November 16 - Have a Party with Your Bear DayFast Food DayButton DayInternational Day for Tolerance and Clarinet Day

November 17 - Homemade Bread DayBaklava DayInternational Happy Gose DayTake A Hike DayWorld Prematurity DayUnfriend Day and Petroleum Day

November 18 - Occult DayApple Cider DayPrincess DayVichyssoise DayAdoption DayGIS DayMickey Mouse Day and Housing Day

November 19 - International Men’s DayCarbonated Beverage with Caffeine DayPlay Monopoly DayHave A Bad Day DayEntrepreneurs’ Day and World Toilet Day

Week long celebrations:
November 11 - 17: Human-Animal Relationship Awareness Week
November 12 - 18: Talk Money Week
November 18 - 24: Road Safety Week 

Friday, October 18, 2019

The week in review - October 18, 2019

Monday - "The Surfaris" I'm always in the mood for surf music. "I saw The Surfaris in concert in Oakland on Saturday night."

Tuesday - "The 33 Marks of Maturity" I just ordered the book. "I haven't read the book yet...I'll probably order it in the next few days"

Wednesday - "Halloween is coming soon" Which means holiday season is upon us! "Halloween is the gateway to the holiday season! Within rapid succession we have Thanksgiving, Christmas/Hanukkah and New Year's."

Thursday - "What's Your First Impression? #TBT" From my friend, Kimmer Sue. "Go out there and meet someone new and see what kind of first impression you can make on them."

Interesting days



Tomorrow - I Love Yarn DayBridge DaySweetest DayRepair Day and Evaluate Your Life Day

Week long celebrations:
October 13 - 19: Healthcare Foodservice Workers Week 
Next Friday - International Artists DaySourest DayWorld Pasta DayPunk for a Day DayBandana Day and Greasy Food Day

November 18 - Occult DayApple Cider DayPrincess DayVichyssoise DayAdoption DayGIS DayMickey Mouse Day and Housing Day

Week long celebrations:
November 12 - 18: Talk Money Week
November 18 - 24: Road Safety Week

Thursday, October 17, 2019

What's Your First Impression? #TBT

Today's blog post was originally published last year:

That was the topic presented by Kimmer Sue at Monday's A Leg Up meeting.  I've talked about first impressions before, but Kimmer included a handout with her presentation.

She had us pair up in the group and write our first impressions of the person we were paired up with. If we'd already met the person, we were supposed to try to remember our impressions from when we first met.

On the back, she had this table sharing the things we often observe and what kind of first impression that may make on us.



She also included this guide:

 How to Create a Better First Impression 

So, now that we know some of what drives first impressions and how important it is to make a positive one, here are a few suggestions for creating an effective first impression when meeting someone new: 
1. Dress slightly better than the occasion warrants.
2. Make frequent eye contact, especially when speaking, but avoid dominating with
your eyes.
3. Smile (we search for smiles and notice them at great distances).
4. Think of the most positive feature of the other person (that will put you in a
pleasant frame of mind).
5. Adjust your voice, gestures, posture and words to the other person (remember, we
prefer people who are similar to us).
6. Give people the benefit of the doubt (i.e., remember the fundamental attribution
error).
7. Be confident in yourself and don’t try to be someone you’re not.
8. Express early those attributes you most want to convey.
9. First impressions are important, and as the saying goes, you only get one
opportunity to make one. But that’s no reason to fear them. Knowing and acting on
what is shown to work to create better first impressions will help you do just that.
Go out there and meet someone new and see what kind of first impression you can make on them.

Interesting days


Today - Get Smart About Credit DaySpreadsheet DayInternational Day for the Eradication of PovertyWear Something Gaudy DayMulligan DayConflict Resolution DayPlaying Card Collection Day and Forgive an Ex Day

Tomorrow - Chocolate Cupcake DayNo Beard Day and Developmental Language Disorder Awareness Day

Next Thursday - World Tripe DayBologna Day and United Nations Day

November 17 - Homemade Bread DayBaklava DayInternational Happy Gose DayTake A Hike DayWorld Prematurity DayUnfriend Day and Petroleum Day

Week long celebrations:
November 11 - 17: Human-Animal Relationship Awareness Week
November 12 - 18: Talk Money Week