Tuesday, May 11, 2021

Did You Pick the Right Partner?

This sounds like an interesting podcast from The Art of Manliness:

Whether you’ve been dating someone for a short time or been married for years, there’s one question that can remain perennially interesting — did I choose the right partner?

My guest today has some answers to that question that aren’t based on crowd-sourced anecdotes or biased personal hunches, but reams of scientific research. His name is Ty Tashiro and he’s a professor of psychology, a relationship expert, and the author of The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love. We begin our discussion with the difference between loving someone and being in love with them, and how the latter comes down to a combination of like and lust. Ty shares the three elements that go into liking, and how this liking piece is really the foundation of long-lasting relational happiness, even though it tends to get underemphasized. Ty then reveals the surprisingly low ROI of factors like looks and income in relationship happiness, before unpacking the factors that do have an outsized impact in contributing to enduring love. We discuss which personality traits are predictive of relationship stability and satisfaction, which have the opposite effect, and why you need to ask your friends for their assessment of your significant other’s personality, rather than only assessing it yourself. We also get into the importance of your partner’s attachment style, which they learned in childhood, and two red flags to look for in your relationship.

These insights will prove super useful for those in the dating scene, but will also be of interest to those already in long-term relationships, in either affirming the wisdom of your choice of partner, or helping you identify issues that may be sabotaging your relationship and can still be addressed.

Here are the highlights from the program:

  • The difference between loving someone and being in love with someone
  • 3 factors that contribute to whether you like someone or not 
  • When and why does lust ebb more than like?
  • How much do looks really matter?
  • The value of deciding the traits and characteristics that are most important to you
  • Which personality traits to avoid in a partner 
  • What is “attachment style” and how does it play out in our relationships?
  • What are some red flags to be on the look out for?
It actually turned out to be pretty interesting!

Interesting days


Tomorrow - Receptionists’ DayLimerick DayFibromyalgia Awareness DayRoot Canal Appreciation DayOdometer DayNutty Fudge DayDonate A Day’s Wages To Charity DayThird Shift Workers’ Day and International Nurses Day

Week long celebrations:

May 6 - May 12: Nurse’s Week

Next Tuesday - No Dirty Dishes DayMuseum Day and Visit Your Relatives Day

Week long celebrations:

May 16 - May 29: Heritage Breeds Week

May 16 - May 29: Italian Beef Week

June 11 - Yarn Bombing DayCorn On The Cob Day and German Chocolate Cake Day

Week long celebrations:

Jun 10 - Jun 17: Love your Burial Ground Week

 

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