Monday, August 17, 2020

How to Design Conversations That Matter

Today's blog post is based on a podcast from The Art of Manliness:
We typically don’t think much about how we structure a conversation. We just sort of wing it and hope for the best. But my guest today argues that all conversations — even the small and mundane — can impact our ability to lead, influence, and connect, and ought to be approached with thoughtfulness and intention.

His name is Daniel Stillman, he’s a consultant, author, and podcaster, and in his book Good Talk: How to Design Conversations That Matter, he draws on his background in design to show how we can use the principles of design thinking to improve the quality of our exchanges. Daniel and I kick off our discussion by unpacking the defaults of conversation people often fall back on. Daniel compares the structure of conversation to an operating system, and we turn to how we can improve this conversational OS, beginning with the way we invite people into a conversation with us, and why we shouldn’t just ask, “Can we talk?” We then get into how we can improve the “interface” of our conversations, by recognizing the influence that space and place have on them, and choosing the right environment for a particular dialogue. We end our conversation with the options you have for responding when it’s your turn to talk and how to deal with the gaffes we all make during conversations, and the feelings of regret that frequently follow.
Here are the highlights from the show:
  • The conversational defaults that may not be working for people
  • What to do if you’re the “fixer” type of conversationalist 
  • How to approach a hard conversation 
  • Making an honest invite to a conversation 
  • The ways we teach people to treat us 
  • How the space and the place affects our conversations 
  • The need to sometimes re-invite someone into a conversation 
  • How to elicit more from the people we’re conversing with 
  • Why you don’t need to have a hot take on everything
Ladies...how many of you have had a significant other whose default response is wanting to solve whatever issue you bring up, whether you want a solution or not?

Guys...how many of you have a default response of wanting to solve whatever issue your significant other brings up, whether she wants a solution or not?

I'm sure most, if not all, of us could use some help with our conversational designs.

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Saturday, August 15, 2020

Your weekend guide to interesting days - August 15, 2020

This week


Sunday - Book Lovers DayRice Pudding Day and Melon Day

Monday - Lazy DayWorld Lion DayVlogging DayS’mores DaySkyscraper Appreciation Day and Duran Duran Appreciation Day



Thursday - International Lefthanders Day and Filet Mignon Day

Yesterday - Creamsicle DayTattoo Removal Day and Social Security Day

Today - World Honey Bee DayCheck The Chip DayRelaxation DayCycle to Work DayAcadian DayGeocaching DayLemon Meringue Pie DayBreak The Monotony Day and Homeless Animals Day

Week long celebrations:
Aug 10 - Aug 16: Afternoon Tea Week

Next week


Tomorrow - Surveillance DayRollercoaster DayTell A Joke DayAirborne DayWorld Bratwurst Day and Rum Day

Monday - Thrift Shop DayVanilla Custard Day and Black Cat Appreciation Day


Wednesday - International Orangutan DayPhotography DayPotato DayInternational Bow DayHumanitarian Day and Aviation Day


Next month


September 9 - Teddy Bear DayQuiet DayWienerschnitzel DayWonderful Weirdos Day and Steak Au Poivre Day

September 10 - World Suicide Prevention DaySwap Ideas DayTV Dinner Day and Alpaca Day

September 11 - Make Your Bed DayNo News is Good News DayPatriot Day and Hot Cross Bun Day

September 12 - Video Games DayDrive Your Studebaker DayChocolate Milkshake Day and Programmers’ Day


Week long celebrations:
Sep 13 - Sep 19: Housekeepers Week

Friday, August 14, 2020

The week in review - August 14, 2020

Monday - "Five hobbies that will make you a better geocacher" Geocaching Day is coming up tomorrow. "No matter if you’re a creative type or analytic, read on to learn about five hobbies that will make you a better geocacher."

Tuesday - "Social Security" Today is Social Security Day. "The average Social Security benefit was $1,503 per month in January 2020."

Wednesday - "4 Ways to Fight Staleness While Working From Home" Tomorrow is Break The Monotony Day. "Try these four tactics to spicing up your work day, and also look for other ways to vary your routine."

Thursday - "1% better #TBT" A little bit of improvement every day goes a long way. "You're going to be a year older anyhow, so why don't you become a year better, too!"

Interesting days



Tomorrow - World Honey Bee DayCheck The Chip DayRelaxation DayCycle to Work DayAcadian DayGeocaching DayLemon Meringue Pie DayBreak The Monotony Day and Homeless Animals Day

Week long celebrations:
Aug 10 - Aug 16: Afternoon Tea Week
Next Friday - Senior Citizens DayPoet’s DayMen’s Grooming Day and Spumoni Day

September 14 - Boss/Employee Exchange DayEat a Hoagie DayCream Filled Doughnut Day and Gobstopper Day

Week long celebrations:
Sep 13 - Sep 19: Housekeepers Week

Thursday, August 13, 2020

1% better #TBT

Today's blog post was originally published five years ago:

How would your life change if you got just 1% better every day? Just make a small change in one thing each day. Exercise a little harder. Work a little harder in your business. Eat a little better.

Here's an article from The Art of Manliness called "Get 1% Better Every Day: The Kaizen Way to Self-Improvement". This article focuses on achieving the big goals by working towards them a little bit every day. It also has links to some books on the subject "The Compound Effect" by Darren Hardy and "The Slight Edge" by Jeff Olson. I've heard of both of these books but I haven't read either...guess I better get busy!

And here's an article on 21 small changes you can make to your life.

Also, Jordan Adler, a network marketing top earner and trainer, talks about it here.

Here is an excerpt from Jordan's training call:
DECIDE TO GET BETTER:
Let’s say you focus on getting 2% better each week. What can you do this week
to be 2% more productive in your business. What can you do this week to be 2% more skilled this week in your business. Do this for 1 year. You are 100% better after 1 year. 500% better after 5 years.  
What can I do better TODAY? Get 2% better each day and in 60 days you are over 100% better and in 1 year you are 500% better. That’s 5X the person you are today. If I asked you what can you do to become 2% better today . . . if I asked you that question each day, I’ll bet you could come up with something. Like meet one more person today. Or follow up with one more person today. Or read 2 extra pages in a personal development book today OR listen to a call on www.thecoolbuzz.com today OR book myself for convention today.  
Just 2% a day can completely transform your life!
The exact numbers don't really matter...just try to do a little bit every day, or even every week, and you'll be amazed at the results in a year. Just realize that you may not notice any improvement in the beginning, but it's a compound effect. At the end of the year you'll see massive improvements. You're going to be a year older anyhow, so why don't you become a year better, too!


Week long celebrations:
Sep 13 - Sep 19: Housekeepers Week

Wednesday, August 12, 2020

4 Ways to Fight Staleness While Working From Home

Today's blog post is based on an article from The Art of Manliness, and ties in with Break The Monotony Day coming up on Saturday.
Like the rest of the small crew here at AoM, I’ve been working from home for most of my career, and have observed that without the presence of coworkers to chit-chat with, breakrooms, or a coffee shop in the lobby, it’s easy to feel a bit stale. While lunch is a nice interlude in the middle of the day, I’ve found I need some refreshing mid-morning and mid-afternoon too.

Fortunately, one’s ability to re-energize at home is even better than at the office — you can freely play with habits and routines without worrying that onlookers will think you’re a weirdo or a slacker — and over the years I’ve experimented with a lot of different ways to shake off my listlessness and get back in a focused groove. 
If you’ve recently joined the ranks of the WFH crowd, and have experienced the phenomenon of staleness yourself, below I suggest four things that have worked for me in breaking out of it.
Many of us, myself included, are working from home these days. And if you're like me your calorie intake has gone up and your calorie expenditure has gone down.
It might be tempting to just take a mental break from your work, i.e., set a timer for 10 or 15 minutes and cruise Twitter or Instagram, check the latest headlines (which, these days, is always a recipe for demoralization and/or rage), even read a bit from the novel on your desk. But these activities don’t feel different enough from your normal work to be sufficiently refreshing. As Winston Churchill said, “Change is the master key”; to really alleviate your restlessness, you need to break off from your mind-work to do something physical. 
There have been plenty of days where I make it to lunch only to realize I haven’t moved in about four hours and my legs feel like jelly. As the body affects the mind, it’s no wonder that this stagnant posture leads to stagnant cognition.

To defeat the staleness of your workday, you need to periodically toggle to more physical, senses-reactivating activities. I offer the following suggestions with that idea in mind.
So, what do they suggest?
  1. Do 30 Jumping Jacks
  2. Take a Quick Walk Around the Block
  3. Make a Drink (I Prefer Coffee)
  4. Practice Productive Procrastination
I'm pretty sure my downstairs neighbors would frown, or worse, if I did jumping jacks to take a break from work...especially since I work at night.

I do walk a few laps around the parking lot here at my apartment complex during the day...I usually don't like walking it in the middle of the night. Although I did a lot of walking in the middle of the night when I was working in the office...I could easily get 20 - 30 minutes of walking in without ever having to leave the building. However, it looks like I may be working from home for another nine or ten months.

It's not good to intake coffee within eight hours of bed, so I usually won't have coffee after 8:30 PM. If it's after that time, I may have hot chocolate or a glass of milk (with or without Ovaltine), There is some caffeine in those beverages but not as much as there is with coffee.

But what do they mean by practice productive procrastination?
At the times when your willpower starts flagging, it can be hard to motivate yourself to tackle certain tasks, especially those which are difficult or tedious.

Rather than fighting this desire to procrastinate, and pretending you’re still working, while actually just half-heartedly staring at a screen and distractedly flitting around the web, deliberately lean into it. But make your procrastination productive, by using this hiatus to take care of a few things around the house.

When you set a timer (10-15 minutes is a good procrastinatory period) and you’ve focused your energy (by giving yourself permission to take a hard break from work), you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish in a short time span. Do a quick kitchen clean up, mow the yard (that one’s for me — my small yard takes 12 minutes to mow), start or fold some laundry . . . you know the drill.

You’ll get your mind off work, move your body around a bit, accomplish something that needs doing anyway, and return to your desk (or kitchen table) re-energized and ready to tackle more tasks for your job. Win-win-win-win.
Try these four tactics to spicing up your work day, and also look for other ways to vary your routine. I know that our daily routine for many of us took a drastic turn about five months ago, but now we need to shake things up a bit from time to time.

If you have any ideas that you use to break up the monotony in your daily routine, I'd love to hear from you!

Interesting days


Today - World Calligraphy DayWorld Elephant DayVinyl Record DayMiddle Child’s Day and International Youth Day

Tomorrow - International Lefthanders Day and Filet Mignon Day

Week long celebrations:
Aug 10 - Aug 16: Afternoon Tea Week
Next Wednesday - International Orangutan DayPhotography DayPotato DayInternational Bow DayHumanitarian Day and Aviation Day

September 12 - Video Games DayDrive Your Studebaker DayChocolate Milkshake Day and Programmers’ Day

Tuesday, August 11, 2020

Social Security

Since Friday is Social Security Day, this seemed like a timely topic. Today's blog post is based on two articles, both from The Motley Fool

The first article is on how much income you'll need in retirement:
Here's an often-misunderstood retirement concept: Being ready to retire isn't necessarily about how much money you have in savings. The much more important factor is how much sustainable income you'll have.

For example, if you have a pension, Social Security, and an annuity, all of which are inflation-adjusted each year, and this combination is more than enough money to live on, it doesn't matter too much if you have a million-dollar 401(k). On the other hand, if your only guaranteed source of income is Social Security, having a stockpile of savings that you can use to create income becomes much more important.

With that in mind, here's a quick overview of the basic retirement income rule of thumb and how to modify it to determine how much income you will need in retirement.
I'm sure most of you are familiar with the 80% rule:
Financial planners (myself included) often tell clients that they should anticipate needing about 80% of their pre-retirement income after they retire in order to maintain the same standard of living they're used to. The number varies slightly, but is generally between 70% and 80%, depending on who you ask.

You may be wondering: "Where does that 80% figure come from? Wouldn't I need 100% of my pre-retirement income to sustain the same lifestyle?"

Well, not really. The idea behind the 80% rule is that there are some expenses you naturally won't have after retirement. For example, if you commute to work now, you'll probably have lower expenses for things like gasoline and auto maintenance or won't have to pay as much for public transit if you go that route.

And don't forget about the expense of retirement savings itself. The average worker contributes just over 6% of their salary to retirement savings, which will be unnecessary after retirement for obvious reasons.

The point is that after subtracting expenses you will no longer need to worry about, the 80% figure is generally accurate for the average American.
So, if you're happy with your current standard of living, you'll only need about 80% of your current income to maintain it. But as we get older, our health care expenses will tend to increase.

I'm pretty healthy right now, so hopefully my health care expenses will stay low for awhile, but I intend to do more traveling so that expense will probably go up

Since we only need 80% of our current income when we retire, where will we get the money from?

The second article from The Motley Fool is about how much you can expect from Social Security:
It's worth noting that the Social Security Board of Trustees has projected that the Social Security Trust will have completely exhausted its more than $2.8 trillion in spare cash by the year 2034, necessitating what it estimates will be a 21% across-the-board cut in benefits. In other words, if you're heavily reliant on Social Security, your monthly income could take a substantial hit in less than two decades. Worse yet, if you've claimed benefits before reaching your full retirement age (the age where the SSA deems you eligible to receive 100% of your monthly benefits), your already permanently reduced payout could be slashed even more.

Data from the Social Security Administration (SSA) shows that 61% of retired workers count on their benefits to provide at least half of their monthly income. For unmarried elderly individuals this figure jumps to 71%.

Yet according to the SSA, Social Security benefits are only truly designed to replace about 40% of the average worker's wages during retirement. Based on the $1,363.66 that the average retired worker receives each month (as of Feb. 2017), or $16,364 a year, this means around $24,000 in additional annual income (approximately 60%) should be derived from other sources aside from Social Security (e.g., a pension, 401(k), IRA, or some other retirement or investment account).
Understand that this figure has some leeway based on what a worker earns during his or her lifetime. An individual who earned an average of $150,000 a year is capped by how much they can receive monthly from Social Security ($2,687 in 2017). Thus, higher-income individuals will see around 25% of their income replaced by Social Security and, in some instances, they may not even be reliant on this added income at all. Conversely, low-income individuals could see around 55% of their working wages replaced by Social Security income during retirement.

What isn't OK, based on the SSA's recommendation, is relying on Social Security to provide a significant portion of your monthly income (60%+). Doing so runs the risk of being at the mercy of a possible benefits cut in the not-too-distant future.
The most recent numbers, according to U.S. News, is:
The average Social Security benefit was $1,503 per month in January 2020. The maximum possible Social Security benefit for someone who retires at full retirement age is $3,011 in 2020. However, a worker would need to earn the maximum taxable amount, currently $137,700 for 2020, over a 35-year career to get this Social Security payment.
 Calculating your SS payment isn't very straightforward (again from U.S. News):
Social Security payments are calculated using the 35 highest earning years of your career and are adjusted for inflation. If you work for more than 35 years, your lowest earning years are dropped from the calculation, which results in a higher payment. Those who don't work for 35 years have zeros averaged into the Social Security calculation and get smaller payments.

"When it's time to calculate your benefits, the Social Security Administration will look at your highest 35 years of earnings, and earnings before your 60th birthday are indexed for inflation – meaning that while your earnings may have crept up over your career, the money you earn this year may not be one of your highest earnings years after indexing," says Jim Blankenship, a certified financial planner at Blankenship Financial Planning in New Berlin, Illinois, and author of "A Social Security Owner's Manual."

For a worker who becomes eligible for Social Security payments in 2020, the benefit amount is calculated by multiplying the first $960 of average indexed monthly earnings by 90%, the remaining earnings up to $5,785 by 32%, and earnings over $5,785 by 15%. The sum of these three amounts, rounded down to the nearest 10 cents, is the initial payment amount. Cost-of-living adjustments and delayed retirement credits can boost your payments above this amount.
This article from Investopedia tells exactly how to calculate your social security payment...it's not easy!

To see the steps involved, check out these instructions from Investopedia:
  • Using a recent Social Security Statement, list in spreadsheet Column A your taxable Social Security earnings year by year.
  • List in Column B the most recently published NAWI adjustment factors (year by year) as published by the SSA.
  • Multiply Columns A and B and output the result to Column C.
  • Identify in Column D the 35 highest values in Column C. Add these together and divide the sum by 420 (420 months in 35 years). This will approximate your AIME.
  • Use the most recently published bend points to convert your AIME into a PIA.
The PIA (Primary Insurance Amount) is your actual computed monthly benefit.

If Social Security pays approximately 40% of your pre-retirement earnings, and you only need 80% of that amount to live on, then SS should provide half of what you need to live on. Where will the other half come from?

Take the total amount you have accumulated in your retirement accounts...401k, IRA, etc. and divide that amount by 200. That's how much you can withdraw from your accounts every month and not touch the principal, if you earn 6% interest per year. If that amount isn't at least equal to half of your projected monthly expenses, then you need to either save more (if you have enough time) or to come up with some additional income. Or you could just keep working!

Now that you know how much you'll earn, let's talk about how much you pay into Social Security.

You pay 6.2% of your wages and your employer matches it for a total of 12.4%. (12.5% would be 1/8, so basically one eighth of your income gets paid into Social Security). 

I'll probably write some more on the payroll withholding next week,

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Week long celebrations:
Aug 10 - Aug 16: Afternoon Tea Week



Monday, August 10, 2020

Five hobbies that will make you a better geocacher

Since this Saturday is Geocaching Day I figured this article from https://www.geocaching.com/ would be interesting.
Whether you think of geocaching as a game, activity, or hobby, you can always improve your skills. No matter if you’re a creative type or analytic, read on to learn about five hobbies that will make you a better geocacher. Bonus! You can also combine these hobbies with geocaching!
  1. Puzzle-solving
  2. Photography
  3. Painting or drawing
  4. Gardening
  5. Learning a new language
So, how do these hobbies help you become a better geocacher? Read the article to find out. And if you already do some of these, why don't you try out your skills on Geocaching Day?

Go here to get started.

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Week long celebrations:
Aug 10 - Aug 16: Afternoon Tea Week
Next Monday - Thrift Shop DayVanilla Custard Day and Black Cat Appreciation Day

September 10 - World Suicide Prevention DaySwap Ideas DayTV Dinner Day and Alpaca Day